I’m so excited to announce the opening of my consulting agency. As a consultant, I hope to help you find solutions to your problems. Plus, for a limited time, I will waive the fee for your first visit.
Do you feel someone is cheating or lying to you? I can help. Do you need to find out what your children are involved in? I can help with that too. Are you in a relationship and having problems communicating? I think you will be amazed at how helpful I can be to resolve any issues you may face. Is there someone at work you need help with? I can mediate any type of challenges you may have with great results. So, next time you are in a bind and don’t know what to do, give me a call or leave a comment on this blog and I will be happy to respond.
Shelby Nichols Consulting 
Hi Shelby,
I’m an elementary school teacher and SEP conferences are coming up. This is where I need your help. I have a student whose parents are divorced and not communicating. They both tell me a different story and it is interfering with my students’ work. Could you come to the SEP I have set up with them? Maybe you can figure out who is telling the truth.
Thank you so much!
Elizabeth
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Hi Elizabeth,
Thanks for inviting me to your SEP. Let me tell you what I found out. First of all, both parents are feeling a lot of guilt for how this divorce is effecting your student. The problem is that neither one of them wants to be the “bad” parent so they are both indulging your student to “make up” for what he is going through. I suggest that you ask both parents to set some consistent rules they can both agree to. Mom is making excuses for her son because she is tired and overwhelmed. I think she just needs some help with setting goals and a chart of some kind to motivate her child. Maybe you can remind her how important routine and boundaries are to children…even when they don’t follow them…they still want them. So her setting rules is not being a tyrant, it’s giving him what he needs. I hope this was helpful. Let me know if you need anything else!
Good luck,
Shelby
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Thanks Shelby,
I talked with the parents and we decided to put him on a contract. He will have rewards and consequences here at school as well as at home. I talked about being consistent for both of them and talked about setting boundaries and rules, because children need them to be happy. Hopefully we’ll see some improvement. With any luck the parents will communicate more efficiently for the benefit of their child!
Thanks again for your input!
Elizabeth
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